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New for You! Holiday Plans and Avoiding Loneliness
Categories: Dating, Pen Pals, Friends: Cyber Dating, Member Surveys, Holiday Ideas: Misc.
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Submitted by: Nannette | View Member Profile | View Other Posts
Created: 12/26/2002
We asked our members: "How will you be spending this holiday season - Christmas and or New Year's? Do you have any secrets for avoiding loneliness?" Here are responses:
Female - Age Range: 31-40
I'll be spending the holidays with all my peers at work! It's great to be light in the dark world! Hospitals are difficult places to be during the holidays. However as my family & friends live many hours away, I signed up for extra work!
Female - Age Range: 31-40
My advice would be, don't sit around and let yourself be lonely. Find something to do to keep yourself busy. I live close to my parents but they took off for the holidays for 3 weeks. Both my children are going to be at their fathers. It will be the first time I've been alone Christmas ever! Yeah, the prospects looked gloomy. But...I decided I wasn't going to be down for the holidays. I made some plans and come what may, I am determined I won't be down (:. So...make a choice - find someone who perhaps is spending the holidays alone themselves and invite them over or get together. There are many, many lonely single people out there of all ages. We all need to support each other!
Happy Holidays!
Female - Age Range: 31-40
I am not so happy by this time coz my email add could not received incoming message(s) maybe it's my fault i can't back it to normal
Female - Age Range: 41-50
Strong prayer of pouring your heart out to God. Each year has improved for me. Also, trying to fill my life with giving to children in need. Bring a friend while you give!
Female - Age Range: 41-50
Today,with the help of my neice, she and I sent out SMILES to everyone that was online , at random times during the day. We thought wow this would be a great time to give the gift of something simple, to someone that might not otherwise have as much as a christmas that we do. So, we sent the smiles to over 100 pages of profiles, some got doubles ,,lol. but hey , just more to smile about.Christmas Day we plan to do it again , taking turns every other hour. So if your young and you are wondering why a old lady is sending you a smile, just pass it on to someone that needs one. For those of you that might have seen the movie.. PAY IT FORWARD. this is my pay it forward. God Bless Each and Everyone of us with a Match this coming Year.
JOYFULLYFORHIM:
Female - Age Range: 41-50
You may use my alias. I Think pets are wonderful for single people. I still have children at home so they keep me busy but my dog sits with me and has such silky soft hair. I just hold her a lot, there is something almost theraputic about touch. Even with an animal, and especially one who seems to appreciate everything you do for it. I believe that God sent me this dog. I have had it for a year. When I was a teenager I particularly liked cats. But over the years pets were more or less crowded out by children, husband, home and responsibilities. Two years ago, after my husband left God sovereignly sent me a little white chihuahua. I didn't look for it or ask for it someone walk up and offered me it. I kept it (for my children). Then one year ago just before Christmas I got this dog I now have. Almost as unexpectedly. I give God the credit, he is so good. Open your heart and ask God how you can be a blessing to someone else. And hold a child or a puppy.
Female - Age Range: 41-50
Christmas I will be going to my parents' home - a few hours away. However, on New Years Eve a group of singles from church will get together to watch movies, talk, eat, listen to music, etc. My church family certainly helps with getting past the loneliness. I've learned that being an active part of that community gives me plenty of people to call when I start feeling overwhelmed with loneliness. However, most of the time they include me - both married and singles - so that I don't have to call. So the anser to avoiding loneliness - community!
Female - Age Range: 41-50
On Christmas Eve I always go to my sister's for dinner and then to a candlelight service with my dad and stepmom. On Christmas Day I enjoy my grandchildren and my kids at their home. Last year a friend of mine started a New Years Eve service at her church and this year it is going to be bigger and better than last year. I'm very blessed in having nice friends and I am a people person so I like being around people. I guess if you don't have many friends but go to church, you could invite someone over to enjoy the evening with you that also does not have someone or somewhere to go.
Female - Age Range: 51-60
I will be with my four wonderful sons and two adorable grand babies!!!
I fully realize most are not as fortunate or blessed as I am.....
what I would suggest to them is get out there and serve OTHERS!!! Nothing gets your mind off of yourself/self life or self pity than serving others!!!
Go to potlucks/go serve dinner at a mission/go bowling go goooo and get out there and mingle!!
donella:
Female - Age Range: 51-60
You may use my alias. I will be working night duty for xmas so most of the time will be spent sleeping and I will make a few phone calls to relatives before going to sleep but the New Year I have off and I do not know what I will be doing, probably be at my computer.
Female - Age Range: 51-60
I will be home with my children, dress up and cook a nice dinner. We will reflect back on what the Lord has given us this year and give thanks. We will pray on the up coming year and place the desires of our heart before Him.
Female - Age Range: 51-60
I am spending Christmas with my children and my precious grandchildren! That helps to keep away the lonelies! However, there is still that ache for someone special with whom to share the joy. I don't have a magic potion for dealing with that, except to keep busy with others! Maybe that is the secret -- to keep my thoughts on other and how I can bless their lives!
Female - Age Range: 51-60
This poem was read at our church Christmas service. Having not had the easiest of years, it said a lot for me.
We won't have a Christmas this year, you say
For now the children have all gone away;
And the home is so lonely so quiet and so bare
We couldn't have a Christmas that they didn't share.
We won't have a Christmas this year, you sigh,
For Christmas means things that money must buy,
Misfortunes and illness have robbed us we fear
Of the things that we'd need to make Christmas this year.
We won't have a Christmas this year, you weep,
For a loved one is gone and our grief is too deep;
It will be a long time before our hearts heal,
And the spirit of Christmas again we can feel.
But if you lose Christmas when troubles befall,
You have never really had Christmas at all.
For once you have had it, it cannot depart
When you learn that true Christmas is Christ in your heart.
Verna S Teeuwissen
Female - Age Range: 51-60
You have my permission to use my alias in this survey. Thanks.
I'd never really experienced this kind of loneliness until last year and again now. It comes because my mom died last October (the birth month of Mom, my brother, and I) Since she died, this time of the year puts me into a state that, until her death, I'd not experienced before.
Thanksgiving & especially Christmas were the two most celebrated and important holidays for our family; so, since Mom's death, I haven't found a way yet to avoid the loneliness, the pain, and the emptiness.
Being single (I've been divorced since 1994) doesn't help either. I have no one to share this with. But, I've heard it said that time heals all wounds, so I guess, in time, whenever that may be, things will get better. (My mom and I were very close and had such a beautiful mother-daughter.friend.prayer partner relationship, so I've lost more than a mother. I've lost all those other things as well).
I'm sorry I don't have any solutions, but I sincerely hope and pray that anyone else who may be experiencing this will share any solutions or remedies they have that will help others and myself to overcome these awful feelings.
As to how I'll spend this holiday? Quietly. Tomorrow, December 25th, I'll thank God again for Jesus, I will be attending a special Christmas service at church, after which I'll go home and spend the rest of the day, hopefully, with one of my brothers, my son and his two year-old daughter, who is my only grandchild, and enjoy the fact that God blessed me with some family..
Again, please, if any one may have any suggestions, please share. Thanks. God bless each and every one who may read this, and if you are a praying person, please include me in your prayers from time to time.Thanks. To God be the glory!. Good night, and a blessed Jesus Season for all.
Female - Age Range: 51-60
I avoid lonliness by working at a nursing Home. It fullfills all the lonely feelings by their thankfulness that I am helping them. The joy that I give comes right back to me.I find that keeping busy with helping others always helps.
Female - Age Range: 61-70
I am having a friend come and visit for the 2 days. My son and his family will be out of state for Christmas but will have Christmas with them on New Years Day. My advice is to do not be alone during the Holidays. Invite someone, anyone to be your guest.
Matt633:
Male - Age Range: 41-50
You may use my alias.
I usually spend Christmas with my family. As far as secrets about avoiding loneliness, I just try to keep my eyes on Him and also keep somewhat busy. Sitting home doing nothing accomplishes nothing. Being around friends also helps but I have to be frank and say that I rarely feel lonely. Although I believe that it is the Lord's will that I will be married someday, I am content, for the time being, about being single. I know that this has become somewhat of a cliche or slogan among Christian singles, but I sincerely believe that singleness is not something to be fixed, but it is an opportunity to use my singleness for the kingdom of God. 1 Corinthians 7:32-35
Male - Age Range: 41-50
Well this Christmas season i will be alone due to some unfortunate circumstances like being unemployed i will probably go on Christmas day to help out at an old peoples Home near to me and i plan to attend a Christmas service in my local church. to quote Chles Dickens in a Christmas Carol..' may God Bless us one and all'He surely will but sometimes it is hard to be patient.
Male - Age Range: 41-50
I will be spending time with family and friends. I am having 15 family members over to my house for Christmas dinner. I have attended a few Christmas parties and other gatherings with people from work and people from church.
For New Years, I will probably be attending a Christian Singles dance in my area.
Being busy doesn't cure lonelinesss. Making connections with friends and family is important, even if you don't have that one special person in your life. Remember that God is with you always, and you can always share your burdens with Him.
Male - Age Range: 51-60
It is easier for me to cope with being alone when I accept my aloness. Sometimes past situations I was in are worse than being alone now. Being alone gives me more oppertunity to draw closer to and commune with my creator. It also gives me more time to share Christ with some folks that I would be unable to were I not alone. There are a lot of positives to being alone whether I like it or not. I choose to look for those positives at this point in my life. Giving to others helps me cope with my aloness. Reaching out to others helps us forget about me. Christ was always reaching out to others. He is the example that we need to follow instead of being so alone. Being alone is not fun but it can be bearable and enjoyable most of the time.
Male - Age Range: 61-70
Find something to do that will benefit others not yourself. i.e.,sending Christmas smiles,take someone some homemade cookies or a non-fat/non sugar dessert.
A simple visit can be a tremendous blessing,if they want to reminisce,let them. Don't be corrective & before you leave maybe tidy up a bit. Smiles are of the utmost importance. A person's first look(if in person),is how they will perceive your personality.
The same goes for on the phone except here you need to have a smile in your voice. If by letter/online,choose
your words carefully. Above all,be salted with prayer,
seasoned with The Word & overflowing with compassion,
love,mercy and grace. I'm certainly not the final auth-
-ority on the matter. There is much more to this subject,I am sure. Being led by The Holy Spirit is of
vital inmortance. May you all be a blessing to others.
The seed you sow is the seed that will grow. Don't
plant weeds.(:>)(:>)(:>)
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